It’s the week everyone has been waiting for.
After going on one-on-one dates with each of the remaining men on “The Bachelorette” — Peter, Jed and Tyler C. — and then going off to the fantasy suite for some alone time with each of them, Hannah Brown, this season’s bachelorette, began her date with Gainesville’s Luke Parker.
Before getting into the scrum, the fantasy suite portion of the date is a time for the couples to spend the night in the same room, without cameras or anyone else around. It’s the first and seemingly only alone time the couple gets throughout the show.
And a little disclaimer: This recap is going to be a little uncomfortable and include some rude language. If that’s not your thing, read no further -- and don’t watch the show.
Accepting an invitation to the fantasy suite typically comes with the assumption of sex. That’s not always the case, but sometimes it is.
Previews for the show have been building up the explosion between Parker and Brown caused by the fantasy suites since it began airing and it didn’t disappoint.
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Their date started off well enough. Brown and Parker took a helicopter ride between the Greek islands of Crete and Santorini. They had a picnic on a rooftop when they got to Santorini and talked about their journey on the show so far.
“I am seriously so thankful, and I’ve been completely honest with you, when I look at you in the eyes, I see my future wife,” Parker said. “This is what I want for the rest of my life.”
They were both thankful and happy to have been able to spend time with Parker’s friends and family the week before. Brown said she finally got to hear from people who see what she sees in him.
Despite the struggles they’ve had throughout the season, Brown said she was happy with where they were in their relationship.
“I was just really impressed with Luke today,” Brown said in an on-camera interview. “I was like, ‘Woah. This is the guy I’ve been waiting for.’ He knows without a doubt that he is in love with me. He wants me to be his wife one day and can see that. And I feel like we’re starting to turn the page and enter into a new chapter of our relationship.”
That new chapter brought new struggles.
As the night portion of the date rolled around, things got serious. After laughing and talking more about life and how they’ve both played the role of a “spiritual leader” in their homes, Parker dropped a metaphorical bomb.
“So let’s talk about sex,” Parker said.
Brown smiled and agreed to talk about the topic, but that was just about the last smile Brown showed that night.
“Sex is an incredible thing and it’s a beautiful thing,” Parker said. “Well, only when it’s within the guidelines of marriage.”
Parker said he’d been studying the book of Hebrews in the Bible and was learning what it said about marriage, so he wanted to know if she had or was planning on having sex with any of the other men in the fantasy suite.
As Parker explained why it was important to have the conversation, Brown’s face showed she was growing more and more concerned.
“I just want to make sure you’re not going to be sexually intimate with the other relationships here,” Parker said. “I totally have all the trust in the world for you, but at the same time, I just want to make sure we're on the same page. If you told me you were having sex or you had sex with one or multiple of these guys, I’d be wanting to go home, 100%.”
Neither Parker or Brown are virgins, but Parker has abstained the past few years since coming to faith in college. Brown said she takes sex seriously, too, so she’s been careful with it in the past.
Still, Brown wasn’t happy with some of the things Parker had to say about the subject.
“Some of the things that you said, I don’t agree with at all,” Brown said. “And honestly, I’m kind of mad because the way that you just said that, it’s like, ‘Why do you have the right to do that?’ Because you’re not my husband … You’re questioning me, you’re judging me and feel like you have the right to when you don’t at this point.”
Brown began defending herself by saying the pride that she felt Parker was showing — and had shown throughout the show — was just as much of a sin as sex outside marriage.
Parker felt he was misunderstood, so he tried to clear things up with Brown. But they began to argue and grew frustrated with each other until that metaphorical bomb blew up.
“I’m a grown woman and can make my own decisions, and I’m not strapped to a man right now,” Brown said. “The words that you’re saying are really just not OK. And the closest thing that I’ve ever felt to love at first sight was probably with you. And our relationship from the beginning gave me so much hope, and then it was like all this s--- kept happening. And honestly, you’ve already broken my heart through this, like truly. And I’ve broken my own heart because I’ve allowed everything.”
Brown said she ignored all the red flags throughout the show and felt betrayed by the questions Parker was asking. She felt judged and she felt that Parker was “holding other people to a standard” he wasn’t living up to himself.
“It just pissed me off,” Brown said in an on-camera interview. “He has said that he loves me, and then it’s like, ‘No you don’t if it’s so contingent on if I fit into what is morally acceptable for your wife to be.’ ... You don’t own me, you don’t decide what I can and can’t do.’ I was like, ‘Oh my God. Who are you again?’”
Parker told Brown that even if she did “slip up” and have sex with one of the other men, it didn’t change how he felt about her or how he would continue with the relationship.
Brown said she doesn’t “slip up,” though.
She then started talking about the Bible story in the book of John. In chapter 8, verse 7, Jesus said, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
“What you just did is you’re holding your stone up at me, and asking me and trying to see what I’ve done,” Brown said.
She admitted she isn’t perfect, but felt that Parker was being disrespectful to her, had been disrespectful to the rest of the men and wasn’t showing himself respect either.
Parker tried to respond to what she was saying, but he couldn’t get a word in.
“I know that I have given this my all,” Brown said. “I have cried, I have struggled, I have screamed, I have made decisions that have kept me up at night. There have been so many times that I have wanted to say I am done with you, but my heart has not allowed me to let you go. And I’ve prayed so much for clarity and I feel like I’ve finally gotten clarity on you and I do not want you to be my husband.”
Parker was shocked, almost frozen in his seat as it began to rain.
“Can you give me a chance to speak?” Parker said.
“No,” Brown said.
She asked to walk him out, but Parker remained seated. And asked again to talk to her about everything. Brown had to almost beg Parker to leave.
“Come on, it’s over,” Brown said.
He felt like she owed him a moment to talk things out and that sent Brown over the edge.
“I don’t owe you anything at this point,” Brown said. “I have bent over backwards for this relationship. I don’t owe you anything, so please, get up.”
As Parker finally got up and the two walked to the car, Parker said he never meant to judge or condemn Brown. He said he didn’t care about everything she had said. He still loved her and wanted to work through it.
“There’s something in me that is refusing me to get into that vehicle right now,” Parker said.
Brown knew how to make him get in the car and leave, though.
“I’m so mad, so, like, I have had sex,” Brown said. “And Jesus still loves me. From obviously how you feel … you probably want to leave.”
As Brown opened the car door for Parker to leave, he asked if he could pray over her.
“No,” she said.
In an on-camera interview, Brown said, “I answer to the Lord, I don’t answer to Luke P.”
And if that wasn’t enough, the previews for next week showed even more drama. It may not be the last we’ve seen of Parker.