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Dixie Divas: The parable of planting an apple tree
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That apple tree. Oh my goodness. Something told me it wouldn’t turn out well.

It happened last spring. Or rather, it started then.

Like many Southern women, I celebrate spring with a bounty of colorful flowers. I’m just like Mama in that. I plant begonias, petunias, diamond frost, lantanas, marigolds and azaleas in the window boxes, garden paths and fill the porches with planted pots and hanging baskets. It’s cheerful and homey. I love it.

So last spring as I shopped in the garden center and filled two carts with flowers, three small trees and flowering bushes, Tink sidled over to me.

"Can we get an apple tree?" He grinned and pointed to a very tall apple tree.

I did a double take.


"So, we can have our own homegrown apples."

He nodded his head eagerly like a little boy. I smiled and shrugged.

"If you want."

We lugged the apple tree home and set it in the backyard with the smaller trees to await planting.

A couple of weeks later, Brandon, who has helped me around the house for several years, came over to dig holes. Since Tink was working on a script, I didn’t want to interrupt him. So I hired Brandon. We planted the other trees. Brandon began digging a hole for the apple tree at the top of an embankment behind our house.

Suddenly, Tink threw open an upstairs window and stuck his head out. Now, I don’t know what he was doing on that side of the house because he was suppose to be working in his office, which is on the front side of the house. Nonetheless, there he was.

"You’re not going to put the apple tree there, are you?"

Brandon’s shovel stopped. I looked up.


He shook his head.

"If you put it there, the apples will roll down the hill."


I don’t arbitrarily pick places to plant trees. I put thinking time in it.

"It will be pretty here."

Thus, began the discussion where Tink wanted to plant it elsewhere though he didn’t know where, while I insisted it needed to be planted right then while Brandon was there to do it.

"I’ll plant it tonight when I finished working."

That’s when I gave him that look every wife knows well. A "really?" look with hands planted on my hips.

"No, you won’t."

"I will. I promise. Just leave it."

Brandon looked at me. I sighed.

"Fill the hole back in."

He laughed and that’s what he did.

The tree didn’t get planted that night or the next or the next. He claims it’s because I didn’t tell him where to put it, but I told him, "Anywhere but over the septic tank."

Besides, I had already picked a place. Spring blew into summer and the dry days came. I toted bath water — for I am frugal and environmentally conscious — buckets at a time, to water my flowers and the apple tree that was lonely and forgotten, trying to hold on until a better day.

Summer drifted into fall and Tink found himself in Los Angeles, working on a new television show, commuting home for the weekends. The apple tree, still somewhat hopeful, waited for a permanent residence.

"When are you going to plant that apple tree?" I asked over the phone one day.

"One weekend when I’m home. Don’t let it die."

Autumn, colder than usual, frosted its way into winter. And when winter’s bitter freezes came, the apple tree could take no more. Just as something told me, it did not end well.

Or maybe it did in a way. I learned a lesson. Or perhaps it’s better to say I earned a right.

Next time, I will not stop a man who is digging a hole for a tree in favor of a man who is digging a hole for himself.

Ronda Rich is the best-selling author of several books. Sign up for her newsletter at Her column appears Tuesdays and on

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