Mandatory to my mama's generation was the ownership of a deep freezer and a sewing machine. These, remember, were people who believed in self-reliance and independence. You grew what you ate, you froze or canned it and you sewed what you wore.
American parents believe in behavior modification. They believe that the same principles that govern the behavior of a rat or a dog also govern the behavior of a human being. Therefore, they think the discipline of a child is a matter of manipulating reward and punishment. Furthermore, they think that if one manipulates reward and punishment properly, the correct behavior will ensue. If it does not, then they reason that they must not have used the proper consequences.
Do you find that you keep missing stains on your clothes when you wash them? The solution may be as simple as improving the lighting next to your washing machine. Either install a brighter bulb or add a spotlight. If you can see your clothes better, you have a better chance of seeing the stains and pre-treating them before they go in the wash. Husbands: During halftime today, go do this for your wives.